Welcome!

Welcome to Home Ownership Matters’ Blog!

Why write this blog? Quite simply because the time is right. Because I understand where you’re coming from. I have been urged by many students in my training sessions to start a blog for several years. It seemed like a daunting task until I hired my current Marketing Assistant, Heather Meade. Her training and expertise has made this possible at a time when the housing crisis has made it more important than ever that consumers be given basic information to help them make informed choices about so many of the challenges associated with real estate today.
Who is Mildred Wilkins?

I am a foreclosure intervention and loss mitigation trainer, a speaker. I am a consumer advocate who also happens to write. Most importantly, I’m a person, just like you, who has had hopes and dreams and inspirations blow up in my face. I have grown and survived DESPITE those blow-ups. I have lived—therefore I teach.

Writing is our most basic and clearest form of communication. The internet, via such tools as this blog (and website; www.HomeOwnershipMatters.com) has made it possible to reach thousands of folks in real time. I invite you to share my real estate lessons. I love to tell my students; “I’ve already taken the class and paid the price for this lesson. You can listen and avoid having to take it yourself.” I have benefited in other areas of my life from listening to the folks who already did it the wrong way so I could avoid their pitfall. I had no such teachers in real estate, so I had to learn the hard way—MYSELF.

I’ve gone from being born Black and poor to uneducated parents in southern Alabama, to graduating with honors from college, to middle income with a position at Purdue University, to a stay-at-home mom, to a divorcee with two children. I did my 6 months on welfare.

I’ve done most of the wrong things related to home ownership—and survived to tell the story. I’ve purchased several homes. I’ve built a new home ---and walked away at closing leaving thousands in a deposit on the table. I’ve bought without an inspection—leading to disastrous problems being uncovered a few months later. I’ve gone through foreclosure—and ended up with the deficiency judgment to prove I was there. Miraculously, I had not filed bankruptcy until AFTER the judgment for the deficiency on the car ($8 K and the house $28 K were recorded). I filed bankruptcy, started over and rebuilt my credit. I’ve lost a child, gone into depression and destroyed my credit again.

Professionally, I worked as a full-time REALTOR for 10 years in Indianapolis; I’ve helped others to buy their dream home. As a Broker-Specialist for 2½ years for Fannie Mae I sold their foreclosed properties. I was required to participate in the forceful eviction process as a representative for Fannie Mae. I was in charge of clearing out the remains of homes abandoned by folks in desperation when time ran out and the sheriff’s sale was imminent. I’ve written a weekly newspaper column on real estate to address the common concerns and complaints of consumers who don’t know where to turn. I’ve received professional training on Loss Mitigation. I’ve spent hundreds of hours studying laws, regulations, guidelines, pending legislation—all relating to predatory lending, mortgage fraud, foreclosure, bankruptcy, fair housing, appropriate disclosure and other subjects which directly impact our housing issues.

What will be included in this blog?

Each day we will share with you information we consider relevant to home ownership. For the first month or so most of the entries will be related to today’s more urgent housing issues—all those components connected to struggling to make your mortgage payment. We will eventually move on to home maintenance, taxes, insurance, and all sorts of other things, so continue to log on. Read and share. You could be just the answer someone needed today.

Contents:

• Today’s WORD—Will be an attempt to help you learn how to ‘talk bank’. Regular folks seldom know what the bank people are talking about. You hear the words, you may even know the words, but what the words MEAN is a whole other thing. It’s hard to communicate when you don’t know the lingo—Hence, Today’s WORD. Read it, learn it, share it.
• Fast FACTS—It is a basic fact that when you are making decisions, not just when you are purchasing a home, but ALL decisions relating to your finances become housing decisions. For instance, filing for bankruptcy impacts your future housing options. We’ll share some pearls of wisdom related to housing. We’ll make a diligent effort to give you FACTS which are relevant for most of the country. We encourage you to hold them close; treat them like the pearls they are.
• Myths and Misunderstandings—One of life’s cruel realities is that it does not matter how sincere you are—IF YOU ARE MISTAKEN. Too many folks across the country today honestly believed they could refinance out of a variable rate loan before the rate increased. They believed because they were ASSURED by a broker that they could. They believed that the broker was: working in their best interest and regulated by the banking industry. They were wrong on both counts and now they can’t afford the home they love. They misunderstood how brokers and banking work. They did not know the meaning of the word—prepayment penalty. We’ll shed some light on some common myths—clear up a few misunderstandings and prepare you to make better choices. Pass it on!
• Articles from the desk of . . .—will be included about once each week. These articles are slanted toward real estate professionals and many have appeared in REALTOR magazines or Broker-Agent somewhere in the country. Taking a course on the subjects discussed is the best way to become more competent in dealing with today’s transactions but reading any or all of these articles will certainly have a positive impact on your business. There is an ARCHIVE of articles available, FREE, upon request. For the complete list, please e-mail Heather at homeownershipmatters@gmail.com.
• Did You Know?—I didn’t think so. Well, anyway, I thought should share. There are tidbits—mere tidbits—of information which can dramatically change how we operate and therefore, dramatically change our outcomes. I am ecstatic when someone shares such a tidbit with me. Whether ordinary or extraordinary, if I didn’t know then I could not incorporate it into my life. Even if they say “Millie, every body knows that” I will happily say, “I didn’t, until now”. Knowledge is truly a powerful thing–I have always had an immense respect for knowledge. I revel in trying to attain more. I humbly share any I have. Embrace knowledge–whatever the source. Use it—Share it. Benefit from it.
• “Your Real Estate Advisor”—will be resurrected and added to the mix within the next two months. That was the name of the real estate advice column I wrote in Indianapolis for 5 years back in the 90’s. (It is also the name of my second book). We’ll talk about EVERYTHING housing: buying, selling renovating, building, maintaining, remodeling, and losing. Don’t be selfish—share the info—with family, friends, maybe even somebody you don’t particularly like. Make them wonder.
• Give me a “Q”—we’ll take a commonly asked question and provide an answer. Please keep in mind that the answer will be MY answer. By that I mean that what you will get is my opinion. That’s because it’s my blog. I expect you to have different opinions and encourage you to share those. Unlike the “FACTS” section we can have lots of answers to a single question. I am promising neither a rose garden nor THE answer. I promised you AN answer. You mustn’t yell at me. I’m sensitive.

Enjoy the blog. It is intended to educate while keeping your attention. The words are all mine. Heather is responsible for everything else. You may reach her by commenting on this blog, or e-mailing homeownershipmatters@gmail.com